Sunday, March 13, 2011

Black Women's Promiscuity - Our Dirty Little Secret

If you visit many black blogs devoted to covering entertainment, gossip, lifestyle issues, etc. you will often see a common thread in the comments section. Black women commenters lamenting about how "whorish" and "loose" and "nasty" nonblack (particularly white) women are. The public sentiments of many black women is that nonblack women are far more sexually promiscuous than black women (hence why an increasing number of black men are entering committed and non committed relationships with them). Cuz uhm, all you negroes want is a hole to stick it in cuz you're savages, animals, etc.


I truly believe that black women actually think this is true. White women are portrayed in the media as being sexy, attractive, sexual, feminine and the object of desire. It would only stand to reason that these women are portrayed this way because they are just oozing sex and very open to sex with just about anyone, anytime, anywhere. I think most black women believe that the experiences of the "Girls Gone Wild" type of white women is indicative of all white women. College-aged white women that participate in "spring break" type sexual activities are not the norm among white women. If it were, white women would probably find a hard time finding men to take them seriously, right? I think another reason for the stereotype of the "wanton white woman" is because white women were on the front lines of the sexual revolution. They were publicly pushing for birth control, sexual liberation and sexual freedom for women. It was this sexual social activism that helped permanently brand white women as sexually loose and irresponsible - mainly by white men that felt that this new found liberation would have only negative consequences. You can decide for yourself if they were right.

Anyway, I remember Joe Francis from "Girls Gone Wild" was on Tyra Banks' talk show and he said that the only reason there were no black girls on GGW was because the black girls wanted to be PAID for their appearance. There was never a lack of black girls willing to make out with each other, get naked or simulate sex - they just wanted cash for it. I think this is an important point. Nonblack women are often called whores by black women because they "do it for free" or "get nothing in return" or they are having sex with a black man (automatically makes her a whore, no matter what). Since most black women do not go to college (especially with white women) and most do not have friendships with white women it is amazing how so many can attest to the sexual behaviors of women they don't really know. However if white women were to make blanket claims about black women being whores, well, we all know all hell would break loose. Black women would accuse white women of trying to sabotage their dating opportunities by labeling them as promiscuous. It is ok for black women to undercut the femininity of other women (we are on the bottom, you see) but everyone else is supposed to create a level playing field.


But in a way our "underdog" status has actually worked to our advantage....


Since black women are not portrayed as sexy, attractive, feminine and desirable it is easy for us to claim that we are not promiscuous as other groups. The "hottentot venus" image was created by racist whites therefore any commentary on our sexual behaviors stems from racism. And unlike black men who "embrace all the sexual stereotypes about them" black women tend to deny them and attribute them to racism or black men. Decades of deflection, denial and fat out LYING has led to the myth of the "chaste black woman who is used, abused and exploited by black men and racist whites" becoming a popular talking point. Black women are either having sex with men we don't want to have sex with due to indoctrination, we are being raped, we are being manipulated, we have no control over our bodies, we are letting black men hit it raw because we are afraid we'll lose them, etc. Yet many black women will loudly proclaim they "got that good-good" or "they can make a ni**a scream!". We are so out of control in our sex lives but at the same time we have mastered making a man feel good. Men who want us for sex are buying into racist stereotypes, but we will gladly own up to the fact that only "we" know how to really satisfy a man. A lot of cognitive dissonance at play here.
When no one is paying attention to what you're doing, you can pretty much do anything. Most other groups have no interest in our sexual behaviors outside of the negative societal affects of out of wedlock parenting. The truth is, the results of our sexual behaviors have encroached upon others. Whereas the results of the GGW white women have not. White and asian women's sexual activity has not resulted into a burden on taxpayers, the public school system, law enforcement and communities. Also, white women's (and a growing number of Asian women's) sexual behavior is POLICED by white men. Black men have never had the ability to police anything black women do, especially when it comes to sex. Black women could be raped with impunity and black men were pretty much powerless to stop it. Yet white men could forbid a white woman from even looking at a black man. White men have always placed boundaries on white women's sexuality, even after the sexual revolution. They still do. White women are not sexually liberated, they are liberated for white men to use however they see fit, trade in for younger models, ridicule and mock, etc.


Decades of black women being able to hide behind the "no good niggas leaving us with babies" and "all black men want white women eventually" left us pretty much uncriticzed. We were the perpetual victims of weak men that would rather drink on the corner all day then get a job and provide for us. We could f*ck and s*ck all day long because any negative results could be blamed on black men. We have always had the perfect scapegoat. White women, on the other hand, have always had to cleverly balance their criticisms of white male sexism and misogyny with the knowledge that they still need those men. White women could never and have never thrown white men under the bus completely. Unless the woman is a lesbian (Rosie O'donnell type) she is not going to do that.

But once we started getting reports on lack of marriage, abortions and HIV among heterosexual black women the conversation started to change. Suddenly what a good number of black men had been saying for quite some time was being played out in various statistics: Black women are far more "hypergamous" than other women. It is this wanton hypergamy that has led to a minority of black men completely controlling the dating/mating market in the black community. Before feminism, women were not allowed to express their hypergamy because it was looked at shamefully. If a man was a decent man and he showed through his actions that he would make a good husband and father, a woman was encouraged to "jump on it". Men understood that in order to have access to frequent sex they were going to have to marry. These two ideals made marriage necessary and made both men and women commit to the institution. Hypergamy was not acceptable since most women were willing to accept "average" men as being worthy of their affection. Hypergamy leads to promiscuity because the more women that are in competition for a shrinking pool of males, the more the women will need to put out. Lots and lots of black women are having lots and lots of sex with different men in an effort to "lock one down". But she is being undercut by her fellow sisters who also want the same man. So she must add another possible man to her rotation who also has a series of women on his speed dial. Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep in mind the men range in socioeconomic status. "Keyshia" may exercise hypergamy amongst the ex-cons, dope boys and block huggers while "Pamela" may exercise hypergamy amongst the various educated, resourceful men in her social circle. "Tonya" may exercise hypergamy among the baller-type men who are in HER circle. Either way, there are only a handful of circles that black men
can be in to have access to commitment-free sex. And most men are locked out for various reasons.

The created "male shortage", which really means a shortage of men that black women want to have sex with, has led to women "having" to share men and "being left" with babies while select men move from woman to woman. Black women's behavior in SELECTING mates directly affects our sexual behavior. If you cast a wide net for men, as the woman you can carefully work your way through your choices since a good number of those men will simply be flattered that you're even interested. You will not need to sleep with a lot of men and play "Russian Roulette" with your vagina. Some men may have a ton of women waiting in line, and you will know this fairly quickly, so you can choose to let him move along or you can decide to get in the back of the line and wait. Most men are not "Mack Daddies". Most men do not have a steady rotation of women they can just screw whenever they want. Most men have to put concentrated effort into getting sex. ANY SEX. Some may lie and pretend like all they have to do is look at a girl but we all know that is not true. Most men put in "work" and women need to understand when you are being "worked for sex" versus a genuine interest in a relationship. Many black women take being "worked for sex" as genuine interest because they desperately want a certain type of man. Behavior they would deem unacceptable from an undesirable man would be the "keys to the coochie" for the type of man they want. Many black women will flat out admit that certain men do not turn them on sexually and therefore they are not going to give those man a chance. But if a man says that he is not attracted to a woman, FOR WHATEVER REASON, he is shallow, insecure, borderline gay, etc.
I don't agree with the mantra that "all black women want thugs" but I do think that black women have a very narrow view of what a dominant man is. Even the most educated of black women have this view. If a man does not appear to be able to be "alpha-dominant" he is going to have a hard time getting attention from black women. Black men that fall outside that acceptable "alpha" paradigm often find themselves questioning whether it is them or the women they are surrounded by. Especially if said man can see that "other" men can have a varying range of personalities, quirks, etc. and still have women treat them with respect. This is why the BWE bloggers say black women need to be reprogrammed. On this point they are spot on. In order for black women to even consider nonblack men as mates, most of them would have to completely change their thought patterns on masculinity. The same thought patterns that have kept an ever increasing number of black men searching for their own "something new".

33 comments:

  1. Wow Rashida. This should be submitted to a journal or something. You break it down like no other. You need to do this regularly.

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  3. Co-signing what Rocky said.

    Unless the woman is a lesbian (Rosie O'donnell type) she is not going to do that.

    Even Rosie O'Donnell had to tow the line back in the day in order to not step on WM toes (e.g. when she use to always ramble on about her "crush" on Tom Cruise)

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  4. As for policing sexual behavior, You are referring to times that have been gone for decades now. Black Males are no longer policing sexual behavior and attempting "protect" black females from rape or anything else. Therefore your whole comment on "policing" sexual behaviors is comical at best. Considering the fact that black males can rarely police their own sexual behaviors, I do highly doubt they are in an position to police anyone else's.

    White women would never throw white men under the bus because frankly, all the complaining they do about rights has never left them in poverty and with babies on their hips. White females are privileged and are simply asking for more than what they already have but yet very few would get rid of the white males who help raise their children and take care of them financially and socially protect them.

    You can't bit the hand that feeds the mouth.

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  5. (This is 1st with the top comment following)
    Dead Horse: Hey, Are you tired of beating me?

    There is a shortage of black men. Statistically speaking there literally aren't enough black males to go around if you subtract the all ready overpopulation of females, those killed, those imprisoned (for long amounts of time) and etc. There is and will never be a shortage of sex available for any race or gender. It's almost illogical to suggest it since you can buy, give or receive sex from anywhere. I've yet to hear a lack of sex or sexual partners. Hell, you can leave the damn country and find sex. It comes down to long-term partners and settling down.
    You claim that most men are not "Mack Daddies" and that's based on what? Your own (biased) personal opinion? Or based on studies or surveys? I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with the claim but I need a little more than your own personal opinion.
    Again, you claim that black women are more hypergamy based on what? Your own personal opinion? Also, how does hypergamy lead to promiscuous behavior? Hypergamy is spread out among all races of women. At the same time, there has yet to be a study that supports your claims. Come harder next time Rashida.

    Tax Payers? Those on Unemployment and Public Assistance are mostly white. Public Schools? The Black Population is extremely small compared to the white population and Hispanic population. I highly doubt that either group has 100 percent of their kids in private schools. Studies shows that all white towns or schools put more into their (all white) public schools compared to lower majority black and Hispanic schools. Thus meaning that majority of the tax money goes to them. And quiets as kept, Hispanics are milking our systems when their illegal aliens come over here and drop anchor babies, don't pay taxes but eat up our public assistance programs and rob jobs

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  6. @Chasing Pavements

    Thanks for your comments.

    There is a shortage of black men. Statistically speaking there literally aren't enough black males to go around if you subtract the all ready overpopulation of females, those killed, those imprisoned (for long amounts of time) and etc.

    OK? We already know this. The shortage begins to happen around the late teens/early twenties. Black CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS are about equal in numbers. Black CHILDREN do not grow up with an imbalance of boys and girls. But what does this have to do with black women being promiscuous and sleeping around? Are you saying that the "black male shortage" is justification? I don't get your point.

    There is and will never be a shortage of sex available for any race or gender. It's almost illogical to suggest it since you can buy, give or receive sex from anywhere.

    FALSE. There is indeed a shortage of sex for MANY, MANY men. Paying for sex is NOT the same as having a regular sex partner. No man would consider "paying for sex" the same as a normal sexual relationship with a woman who is (pardon my vulgarity) horny for you and desiring you without having to have been PAID FIRST. For you to suggest that there is no "shortage" shows just how out of touch most women are with the realities of men. There has always been a shortage of "free sex" which is why most men were married. And despite all of the sexual liberation there is never a guarantee of sex nor can men (by law) expect to have sex with a woman. This is the common misconception women have who think the "hook up" culture is rampant. It is only rampant among select populations. Women control sex and they control who gets into the "free sex" club. It is clearly NOT all men.

    You claim that most men are not "Mack Daddies" and that's based on what? Your own (biased) personal opinion? Or based on studies or surveys?

    LOL ARE YOU SERIOUS? Do you walk outside your house and see MOST MEN? Do you interact with men at all? Most men are completely clumsy and befuddled when dealing with women. They are nervous, unsure of themselves and often giving off very weird signals. They are average looking and know that women see them as such. This goes for single men, married men, etc. Unless they know the woman and know how she will react to his advances, most men play it very safe. Again, you are going off the behavior of a minority of men that are considered "playas". Just because these men have access to the most women doesn't mean that MOST MEN behave like them. Unless you're butt ugly and no men show you attention, you should know that most men are not Mack Daddies. Most are average guys just hoping a woman doesn't roll her eyes when he looks her way.

    (cont)

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  7. Again, you claim that black women are more hypergamy based on what? Your own personal opinion? Also, how does hypergamy lead to promiscuous behavior?

    It's not my opinion, it is what the statistics PROVE. Black women have more abortions, more STDs and are less likely to be married - the only conclusion you can draw is that black women are being very sexually irresponsible and selecting men for unprotected sexual relationships that are clearly not interested in marriage. This is either due to black women being some sort of sexual deviant (which I DO NOT believe) or black women being hypergamous, limiting their potential for functional, healthy sexual relationships that lead to marriage. Hypergamy leads to promiscuity because a large pool of women are competing for a small pool of men (the most attractive, the most welathy, the most physically fit, the coolest, the hippest, etc). These men are the most in demand and can demand much more from women (sex!!!) than average men who have far fewer choices. This is just common sense. The jocks in high school not only dated the cheerleader but they had a steady stream of girls that were waiting in line to be in her place. Women are attracted to power but there are only a handful of truly powerful men in the world. Most men are going to end up somewhere in the middle and SMART women realize that it would make much more sense to go after a "middle guy" than to compete and humiliate herself for a chance to get the "top guy" especially when the "top guy" will not want to settle down due to all of his options. Black women continue to go after "top guys" no matter what her social level is.

    Your entire paragraph on taxpayers and education is wrong and you missed my point entirely. The children of single black mothers are filling the prisons, dropping out of school, having more OOW children and going on public assistance AT A RATE THAT IS FAR GREATER than any other group of single women's children. It is not just the initial cost of trying to educate, socialize, feed, house and clothe these children, it is the additional cost that arises when black children grow up to benefit nothing of value to the society that basically paid for their upbringing. This is how whites see it and this is why they are trying to get rid of as many "social programs" as possible. These programs DO NOT WORK. They cannot replace a family - a mom and a dad that are married and are functionally raising their children. This is why whites make commentary on black women's sexual behavior because chances are her "ooopps....I did it again!" moment will lead to someone ELSE having to take care of her child. And whites have already gotten on Latinos and their anchor babies and I strongly believe that we may see a ratification of our constitution that will end this. Latinos are also filling the prisons, have an increasing OOW birthrate and are creeping up in HIV stats as well. But my blog is about BLACK people so why would I talk about that?

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  8. As for policing sexual behavior, You are referring to times that have been gone for decades now. Black Males are no longer policing sexual behavior and attempting "protect" black females from rape or anything else. Therefore your whole comment on "policing" sexual behaviors is comical at best. Considering the fact that black males can rarely police their own sexual behaviors, I do highly doubt they are in an position to police anyone else's.

    I NEVER wrote that black men EVER attempted to police black women's sexual behavior. I said that WHITE MEN have always had the ability to do that. They still do which is why white women are not testing positive for HIV, running to planned parenthood and dropping out babies of ex-cons the way black women are. In patriarchy, because men will need to pick women to marry and rear their children, men will place boundaries on what women can engage in sexually by imposing STIFF PENALTIES against women that fall out of the acceptable range of behavior. White men give white women a LONG leash, but they are still on a leash. Just look at the social penalties white women face for bearing the children of black men. Or for gaining too much weight. Or for not properly raising their children. Black men have never imposed any such "rules" on black women as they have never actually lived under their own patriarchy in the west. African and Carribean men have, which is why their relationships are far more intact than black American men and women. I don't think you understand the concept of men "policing" sexual behavior. They do it to WOMEN, not to themselves. In matriarchy, which is what black women think they live under, women place boundaries on men's sexual behavior, limiting them to only certain types of women that have the most power and who the WOMEN feel will make the best mates. Hence why black women feel completely comfortable telling black men they can't/shouln't date any woman who is not identifiably west-african looking.

    all the complaining they do about rights has never left them in poverty and with babies on their hips.

    Didn't you say that whites made up the majority of welfare recipients? Most white women are not in poverty, but they are not all living in a gated community with 2.5 kids and a minivan. They are not "left with babies on their hips" because they do not have babies with men who are not interested in MARRIAGE. What is so hard to understand about MARRIAGE then BABIES. This is how all civilized cultures conduct themselves.. Not to mention most single black mothers DID NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED and will admit as much. They only look for marriage after they realize they can't do it alone and that most men want NOTHING to do with a woman with kids outside of sex. Then it's all about finding the nice simp who will be willing to raise your bastard children and make you an "honorable woman".

    Maybe white women actually LIKE white men? Maybe they like them and respect them and don't see them as a huge disappointment and let down the way black women universally see black men yet claim to "love them".

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  9. Rashida said:

    Black men have never had the ability to police anything black women do, especially when it comes to sex. Black women could be raped with impunity and black men were pretty much powerless to stop it.

    Chasing Pavements said:

    Black Males are no longer policing sexual behavior and attempting "protect" black females from rape or anything else. Therefore your whole comment on "policing" sexual behaviors is comical at best.

    Menelik says:

    not sure that you noticed but sister Rashida not once claimed that Black men policed - or were capable of policing, Black women's sexual behaviour. Therefore the statement you made above is utter nonsense!

    Just saying.

    Menelik Charles
    London UK

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  10. Chasing Pavements said:

    white women would never throw white men under the bus because frankly, all the complaining they do about rights has never left them in poverty and with babies on their hips. White females are privileged and are simply asking for more than what they already have...

    Menelik asks:

    privileged in relation to WHOM, by WHAT and at WHOSE expense?

    Seriously woman, to arrive at some of the outlandish assertions you make about the status of white women, and their, frankly, fraught, relationship with white men,you've had to be holding them in awfully high esteem!

    I mean, you come on here trying to bash Black men but to do so you've needed to idealise white women! You're like a strangulated white (female) supremacist!

    Oh, the irony of it, darling lol

    Menelik Charles
    London UK

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  11. Rashida-
    Black Children having equal numbers means nothing because they don't get married or have kids. The number of boys and girls among them is irrelevant to both us and them. Hence me using the term MEN, not boys.
    I'm not justifying why some black females are promiscuous. There are some women who are promiscuous, I can accept that fact. You are calling out black women for calling white women promiscuous by calling black women promiscuous based on your own personal (biased) opinion? Sounds like you're doing exactly what you say they are doing. Pot meet kettle.
    Most men were married due to their values and morals. Not because they wanted free sex. Societies in which men overpopulate women had a rise in marriage rates because the number of women was low. This is not the case for any man in America. Are you talking in the past or present tense? Your original post suggested that you were talking about men of today since you seem to be referring to women of today.
    I've yet to come across nervous or fumbling man within the black race. The males you are describing are mainly non-black males. I've witness their approaches and it is what you said but black males? They are cocky about their value . Women have stated that black males are overly aggressive and confident in their approach towards women.

    Having an abortion doesn't make you promiscuous. You can be in a committed relationship or marriage and have an abortion. The statistics stated aborted pregnancies but did you know that miscarriages are included in that? They also stated that Black and Hispanic females are more likely to be tested for certain STDs compared to white females. And women who use public clinics have their results subjected to info used in statistics, something women who use private doctors don't. Majority of females who use public clinics are minority and poor women.
    Hispanics drop out are rates higher than blacks. The prison system is a good point since a lot of males are ending up there. However, that is a reflection of both the mother and father; or more so the community.

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  12. Having an Out of Wedlock child doesn't put a burden on tax payers because if you are supporting yourself, they don't see a dime of their money going to you. I don't know the percentage of black kids who are on public assistance or receiving government support outside of the public schools that millions of American Kids use.

    The percentage of white on public assistance is higher than blacks. Per capita the rate is not but within the system they are the majority.

    Ignorant whites might feel this way but as a black person, you should know better than that. It's the furthest thing from the truth it but instead of stating that, you give into the stereotypes.

    Again, these are all problems within the black community that need to be fixed but black women can't fix them on their own. I believe that we as black women have our faults but we can't fix a community by ourselves, we can change our ways and black males can do the same and maybe we will get better.

    You are right, black men have never imposed such rules on black women because they have none for themselves. White males as a whole have more power over their community because they have power over themselves and have lead by example and continue to do so. Black males lack self control and have never been able to lead themselves. There are a number of reasons why but all have become obsolete excuses.
    Caribbean Men and African men are leading by example. They are far harder workers and supporters of their family and community. Their women follow that and that's what keeps them in order.

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  13. Yes, because other males are more likely to be morally interested in having a family and kids one day. Yes, first comes marriage than the baby carriage and that's why I suggest black women wait until marriage and give it a few years before bringing a child in.
    I do think that black females should find men who are marriage and father material. However, when they do practice that, we are practicing "hypergamy"!
    White women LIKE white men because white men have not failed them. In America, white females have remained protected and supported. Any and every woman can respect a man who takes care of his family and himself, has morals and works hard for his.
    At the same time, you can easily disrespect a man who doesn't do that, is a rolling stone dependent, has no any drive, ambition or morals to start a family and maintain that family.
    Now you choose which ones black males (some, majority or none) are and you can tell me if they deserve or don't deserve the disrespect.
    Just to let you know, those good black males such as Barack Obama, Denzel Washington, Bill Cosby and others who are morally decent male with families and wives they support financially and physically aren't complained about and are put on pedestals by black women.

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  14. Menelik Charles
    I meant to retype that.It was supposed to read...

    "How can black males ever and be successful at policing sexual behaviors when they have no control over themselves, their bodies or minds and their own communities.It's like the blind trying to lead the blind. You need to be together before can lead others in anything."

    I was trying to repost but blogger has been giving me a hard time.

    Also Rashida is referring to times that are long gone. None of the black males living today ever were incapable of defending black women against rape. Today, that is not the case since majority of rapes are two people of one race. This is case with all races and I don't use it against black males because they are not the only ones. However, I am sick of black males and females in Rashida case using played out examples of black men not being able to protect black women against rape by the white man but now are raping the black community without lube physically, mentally, and emotionally.

    That of course doesn't apply towards brothers like yourself and Rocky because I do like the both of you.

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  15. Excellent post. Simply one of the best I have read by a woman. I might have to put this on my blog. Great insight and I learned some things I didn't know.

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  16. Chasing Pavements said:

    white women LIKE white men because white men have not failed them. In America, white females have remained protected and supported.

    Menelik says:

    and who has attacked and undermined the Black family? In other words, at whose expense have white women been "protected and supported"? Have their been any gross injustices which have emerged from white men allegedly protecting and supporting white women?

    Please, sweetie, there's is something missing from your picture that's rather akin to removing the gas chambers from Jewish-German history!!!!

    Look: white women were most protected when Black people were most subdued, remember? Can you not recall the institution in which your very own ancestors were kept subdued?

    Just asking.

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  17. Bro Andrew,

    put sister Rashida's post on your blog!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  18. Chasing Pavements said:

    I meant to retype that.It was supposed to read...

    "How can black males ever and be successful at policing sexual behaviors when they have no control over themselves, their bodies or minds and their own communities?"

    Menelik says:

    and with an OOW birth rate running at over 70%, you might also argue that "Black women have no control over themselves, their bodies or minds and their own communities".

    The problem for Black men and children thus is that its Black women who actually run both the family and the community so the onus is on those legendary "strong, ambitious, beautiful" Black women to save the day for the race!

    You gonna hold your breath?

    Just asking.

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  19. Black Males are no longer policing sexual behavior and attempting "protect" black females from rape or anything else.

    First of all, “rape” is not even part of the discussion, so leave that straw man out, especially since there is statistically very little difference between the percentage of black women sexually assaulted (17.7%) and white women sexually assaulted (18.8%) as is shown here. and rapes have declined overall 85% since the 70s as is shown here.

    As far as policing black women’s sexual behavior, I would love to hear the various men who have ATTEMPTED to police black women’s sexual behavior speak of their experiences. I am one of those men and the responding chastisement, insults and ridicule by those very women make it futile and not worth the effort.

    In 2011, the one thing that women, especially black women, feel absolutely NO obligation to do is to listen to men tell them what they don’t want to hear no matter how benevolent the man’s intentions. Of course, telling them what they want to hear works wonders no matter what the scheme is.

    Can you even consider the number of men who have confronted another man about how that man treats his own woman only to have the man’s woman join him in chastising the very man who was attempting to defend her honor? Please!

    Woman have been given the legal rights and social permission by feminists and their kowtowers to do exactly as they please without any consideration for traditional standards of feminine behavior nor the advice of men and black women have embraced this new permissibility with a passion.

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  20. Sister Rashida,

    you gotta read this crazy witch:

    http://dbr-alert.livejournal.com/900.html

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  21. All this ish is blamed on Black men! Do these idiots ever hold Black women responsible for anything?

    http://dbr-alert.livejournal.com/650.html

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  22. Check this out by a brother who idealises single mothers...THE TYPE WE TALK ABOUT ON BLOGS SUCH AS THIS. Its something else:

    http://willcapersblaqueink.blogspot.com/search/label/black%20mothers

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  23. Greetings Rashida,

    Very good article. I talk about the same things but from a different perspecttive. My perspective is from one of a select brotha. I have two books where I tell men how to become a member of the select group.

    The issue of hypergamy in the Black community has to be addressed, otherwise the relationship problem will only get worse.

    Check out my blog when you get a chance. www.naturalmating.blogspot.com.

    Peace,
    Rom

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  24. To Rashida,

    Please read this blog post regarding white men's hostility to black women at Racismreview:

    http://www.racismreview.com/blog/2011/04/16/white-mens-hostility-to-black-women-a-deeper-look/

    La Reyna

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  25. Your post makes me sad because I know others may read this and take it as truth! Please READ POWERNOMICS by DR, CLAUD ANDERSON or Black labor white wealth. your statement below hurt me badly about black men. They want to provide. We have been systematically locked in the lowest level of a real life monopoly game.
    You said

    We were the perpetual victims of weak men that would rather drink on the corner all day then get a job and provide for us. We could f*ck and s*ck all day long because any negative results could be blamed on black men. We have always had the perfect scapegoat. White
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    "The created "male shortage", which really means a shortage of men that black women want to have sex with, has led to women "having" to share men and "being left" with babies while select men move from woman to woman. Black women's behavior in SELECTING mates directly affects our sexual

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  27. My experience suggests that both black men and women have a more liberal attitude towards sex. And it strikes me as having far less to do with American culture than African culture. I'm a white guy, but trips to Africa are often extremely steamy without much effort. In general, I'd say African culture is the most permissive in the world. And I think it has little to do with poverty. For example, poor Asian countries are far more conservative regards sex. Whatever the ultimate source, African culture appears to be more in tune with the physical body than others. And therefore craves its stimulation and expression, whether dancing vertically or...."horizontally." In any case case, I think beautiful black women are the hottest of all, ever so slightly edging out Russians and other Slavics.

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  28. Rashida's article is intriguing. As a single, straight, African-American man, it can be fascinating to something which is related to dating from the perspective of a young, black woman.

    A few things stood out to me. I am in my 30s now and college-educated. I, personally, do not seek "any" type of sex. I am not weak and am not "borderline gay," shallow, or anything of the sort.

    If a man is an 8-10 and the woman is a 4 and the initial impression that she had a highly unpolished demeanor and a insufferable personality, then he may not go out of his way to approach her.

    Sometimes she may she him before he sees her. If she smiles and is polite, then it can go a long way.

    Hypergamy, abortion, and HIV- among other things were mentioned. One thing that may not have been addressed is the sexual abuse of young, black girls and the impact that it may have on the even as adults.

    There were a couple of black women, that I have dated before that later revealed that they had been sexually abused as children. One was a victim of incest.

    Sometimes people do not seek counseling and their some of their extreme sexual actions as adults may be manifestations of pain.

    The first woman became intimate with me one, and with multiple people the next day. The second one fought more than one person. And I believe that she may be incarcerated now.

    These women did not seem to really have a father or the figure of one in their lives either when they were growing up.

    Once, in a barber shop, I saw a black women go into a backroom and get a train ran on her for money as well as other cases of women selling themselves.

    A few women wanted me to pimp them. A few gay men offered "mouth and ass." But I refused.

    The night that the abused woman had group sex, she began to cry behind a bush and offered suggested that I have anal sex with her.

    I am not sure how to go about controlling or "policing" a black woman who has been abused in that manner other than possibly locking them in a room.

    On the last night that I saw her, she sent a cryptic e-mail to me and disappeared.

    In the last few years, many of the black women that I have encountered behave as if they are deranged. I try not to use language like b***hes and h**s. But something appears to be horribly wrong.

    I chose not to be on the downlow or anything of that nature. I do not believe that I would enjoy it or find it appealing.

    Outside of occasionally communicating with women online, I have pretty much kept to myself.

    It may be healthy to date a person that you are compatible with and all.

    I have tried to avoid having children out of wedlock and am not entirely sure what to do. For a while, I was briefly involved with a beautiful, tall Russian woman.

    I may end up proposing to new cyber blond girlfriend and having bi-racial children with her.








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  29. I'm 23 and black.I've only had 3 sexual partners in my entire life. Statistcs lie. I've never had any prgnancies or STDS.Fuck You! The average woman has 4 partners in their lifetime, while men have 9.

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  30. I'm sick n tired of reading blog after blog where the black woman is disrespecting the black man. Rashida the words u spew r just as racist as any self hating racist I've seen b4 n my life. You say black men do not lead by example? Well how do u explain W.E.B. DuBois, Marcus Garvey, or Frederick Douglass?? Not even mentioning Malcolm or Martin. Rashida u also went on 2 say black men don't protect their women, families, communities?? Have u ever heard of the black panther party??? If u have then u overstand that they were an organization created to protect their neighborhoods from whites, drugs, n crooked cops. And on top of that we taught our women how to fight so they could continue 2 protect our neighborhoods by raising their young to b the same way. Also have u heard of the black wall street??? If not read up on it! Blacks have always found ways 2 survive n the white supremist always came n destroyed or took what we had using laws. You young kids have no sense of knowledge of self, you all listen 2 lies n believe them. I know my history n our history so if any of you women choose to debate with me please do so but do ur homework cuz I'm going to hurt a lot of y'all feelings. Oh yea one added note while black men were fighting for rights n equality for black men n women the black woman still managed to leave us for white men ie Josephine Baker which also solidifies the notion that the black woman left the black man first. N yea black men dated white women but nothing like black women n white men. The times y'all black women bitching about 2day comes just over the past 30 years bm n ww. But let it be known my brothers the bw does not have our best intrest as a matter of fact she does us just like white people n feel the same 2. Behind every strong black man is no longer a strong black woman, its just us.

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  33. I don't know the reasons why black females are more promiscuous but I can tell you it is a statistical fact.When I hear black women saying white women are far more promiscuous than black women,as a person who read statistical reports related to promiscuity that is an impossibility.Out of wedlock babies,abortions,STDs,the list goes on and on and it shows that their is no contesting black women in any of these categories.Also the University of Tennesse had the biggest study on female promiscuity in the United States and based on race it found that black women had on average three (3) times the intimate sex partners that white women had.

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